That thing you call Love...
just did some late night revision...and the only thing i've learnt is that studying bout soil at 3 in the morning ain't the wisest idea! haha! hmmm... now the probability of me having nitemares bout dentrius-feeding animals is higher...what the hell are dentrius-feeding animals u ask? that's just a really fancy name to call earthworms and similar species by...laughs... now why the hell can't they just classify such creatures under a betta name...perhaps the squiggly-wiggley things??? haha! no wonder i'm not adept to be a science student...
i'm listening to songs at raaga.com at the moment...Listening to music is what i do every night before going to bed...it's theraputic in my opinion... there's a song to represent your every mood...so be it whether your spirits are soaring high or just down in the dumps, music touches your soul in a way nothing else can... It soothes and relaxes you...a good way of unwinding at the end of a long day...
At the moment songs from the movie Devdas is running in my pc and naturally that brings to mind the topic bout love... those who watched the movie should be aware that the central theme of the movie was about first love... And that sets me thinking... What exactly is this thing called love? Everyone seems to be fascinated by the power it has over our lives yet most or none i should say is able to define it..
There is a whole topic devoted for love under the social psych module i'm taking up at the moment... And as the lecturer went rambling on bout the theories behind what causes 2 souls to be attracted to each other and the different kinds of love, I sat wondering how an emotion such has love can be subjected to scientific study... I'm not disagreeing with the many theories that was brought up during lessons...I agree there's a whole lot of truth in the evolutionary perspective, the "matching-phenomenon" and what have you... What i'm trying to say is that is it necessary to bring the topic of love under such scrutiny... Will such studies ever be able to express what a mother feels when viewing her first-born or what a husband and wife share? ...in other words will it ever be possible for love and all its manifestations to be explained and expressed by scientific research? Life as it is is becoming increasingly mechanical grounded by realism as opposed to idealism... Why then bring such a thing has love from the realms of the emotional world to the arena of logic and reason? Some things in my opinion are best experienced and love i believe is one of those...
I've always wondered what distuingishes love from romance... "Romance is the ashes of a flame no longer burning, scattered and forgotten with time and over distance while love is a flame that continues burning throughout eternity" It's a quote i came up with sometime last year... To me it serves as a clear explanation as to the difference between the entiies of love and romance...
As such romance may knock on the doors of a person several times in his/her lifetime but true love i believe only comes once... i know many who would scorn at such an idealistic view of love... We live at a time where divorces are commonplace and love has lost it's exclusiveness... I've even tried to psych myself into taking a more practical approach in my views on love...But lo' and behold i've never been able to convince myself into undertaking such a perspective...
I sometimes wonder why so many couples give up on their relationships so easily and why failed marriages are on the rise... Could it be that they tied the knot because they loved each other and not cause they were in love... Loving an individual and being in love is 2 different things... The difference is subtle but significant... Then again how important love is in a marriage is a whole new area to be pondered over...I'll leave that part for some other time but coming back to love...
I've noticed that alot of times the person you love doesn't love you back and the person who loves you, you simply can't seem to bring yourself to love them back...Far often one ends up compromising and getting into a relationship with a person whom he/she loves but is not necessarily in love with... I guess there's alot of truth in the fact that affairs of the heart are complicated...
Coming back to what inspired me to write all these... first love... i guess for every individual his/her first love holds special memories... memories that will last a lifetime...memories to be treasured and held close to one's heart...Unfortunately most people's first relationships don't last...and there are also those whose first love is not reciprocated... certain individuals, no matter how hard they try are never really able to pick up the pieces and move on... Somehow that image of that special someone keeps haunting you...Memories so vivid keep being played over and over again in one's mind as if everything took place just yesterday rather than years back... And you compare everyone you see with that very special someone... Perhaps for these people their first love was also their true love... I don't know how much truth is in that but i never cease to wonder...
It's said that it's better to have loved and lost then not to have loved at all...Despite all the heartache and all the bitterness surrounding broken relationships and unreciprocated love i believe it's better to have had the experience...the person you love may never be yours but there's no way one can deny you of the memories...
Perhaps the saddest thing is when you know with absolute certainty who you are in love with while with the same certainty you also know you will never be able to capture that special place in that person's heart...Sometimes the worst way to miss someone is when you are siting right next to them...
i'm listening to songs at raaga.com at the moment...Listening to music is what i do every night before going to bed...it's theraputic in my opinion... there's a song to represent your every mood...so be it whether your spirits are soaring high or just down in the dumps, music touches your soul in a way nothing else can... It soothes and relaxes you...a good way of unwinding at the end of a long day...
At the moment songs from the movie Devdas is running in my pc and naturally that brings to mind the topic bout love... those who watched the movie should be aware that the central theme of the movie was about first love... And that sets me thinking... What exactly is this thing called love? Everyone seems to be fascinated by the power it has over our lives yet most or none i should say is able to define it..
There is a whole topic devoted for love under the social psych module i'm taking up at the moment... And as the lecturer went rambling on bout the theories behind what causes 2 souls to be attracted to each other and the different kinds of love, I sat wondering how an emotion such has love can be subjected to scientific study... I'm not disagreeing with the many theories that was brought up during lessons...I agree there's a whole lot of truth in the evolutionary perspective, the "matching-phenomenon" and what have you... What i'm trying to say is that is it necessary to bring the topic of love under such scrutiny... Will such studies ever be able to express what a mother feels when viewing her first-born or what a husband and wife share? ...in other words will it ever be possible for love and all its manifestations to be explained and expressed by scientific research? Life as it is is becoming increasingly mechanical grounded by realism as opposed to idealism... Why then bring such a thing has love from the realms of the emotional world to the arena of logic and reason? Some things in my opinion are best experienced and love i believe is one of those...
I've always wondered what distuingishes love from romance... "Romance is the ashes of a flame no longer burning, scattered and forgotten with time and over distance while love is a flame that continues burning throughout eternity" It's a quote i came up with sometime last year... To me it serves as a clear explanation as to the difference between the entiies of love and romance...
As such romance may knock on the doors of a person several times in his/her lifetime but true love i believe only comes once... i know many who would scorn at such an idealistic view of love... We live at a time where divorces are commonplace and love has lost it's exclusiveness... I've even tried to psych myself into taking a more practical approach in my views on love...But lo' and behold i've never been able to convince myself into undertaking such a perspective...
I sometimes wonder why so many couples give up on their relationships so easily and why failed marriages are on the rise... Could it be that they tied the knot because they loved each other and not cause they were in love... Loving an individual and being in love is 2 different things... The difference is subtle but significant... Then again how important love is in a marriage is a whole new area to be pondered over...I'll leave that part for some other time but coming back to love...
I've noticed that alot of times the person you love doesn't love you back and the person who loves you, you simply can't seem to bring yourself to love them back...Far often one ends up compromising and getting into a relationship with a person whom he/she loves but is not necessarily in love with... I guess there's alot of truth in the fact that affairs of the heart are complicated...
Coming back to what inspired me to write all these... first love... i guess for every individual his/her first love holds special memories... memories that will last a lifetime...memories to be treasured and held close to one's heart...Unfortunately most people's first relationships don't last...and there are also those whose first love is not reciprocated... certain individuals, no matter how hard they try are never really able to pick up the pieces and move on... Somehow that image of that special someone keeps haunting you...Memories so vivid keep being played over and over again in one's mind as if everything took place just yesterday rather than years back... And you compare everyone you see with that very special someone... Perhaps for these people their first love was also their true love... I don't know how much truth is in that but i never cease to wonder...
It's said that it's better to have loved and lost then not to have loved at all...Despite all the heartache and all the bitterness surrounding broken relationships and unreciprocated love i believe it's better to have had the experience...the person you love may never be yours but there's no way one can deny you of the memories...
Perhaps the saddest thing is when you know with absolute certainty who you are in love with while with the same certainty you also know you will never be able to capture that special place in that person's heart...Sometimes the worst way to miss someone is when you are siting right next to them...
posted by silent wonderer at 3:30 AM
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